Can I just say something before I start? Your man will not look at you as if you are a lesser human being, and you do not have to be a porn star to do it right… in fact porn gives a totally wrong impression of what oral sex is all about, and if you are a woman and you watch porn in an attempt to learn, you will probably be put off for life. It's not always pretty. Oral sex can be enjoyed on so many different levels by you and your partner, so why reduce it to a cheap act that feels ever-so-slightly degrading because you're approaching it from the wrong angle and with the wrong attitude?
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Foreplay is something you should take your time with to get both your partner and you in the mood. Foreplay is something that should turn you on as well. They require clitoral stimulation in order to climax, which can happen with manual stimulation , oral sex , or sex toy action. The rubbing, touching, kissing, and talking you have before penetrative sex should be enjoyable in and of itself. Now to get the best foreplay tips, we spoke to various sex experts, therapists, and psychiatrists.
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I know some women hate performing oral sex on a guy, and I get it—having someone's junk thrusting inside your mouth and ugh, the annoying head push! But to me, there's nothing more empowering and exciting than to have full control of over a penis—and by effect, the man attached to it. Not to mention, unlike a hand job or even penetrative sex , men can't replicate the sensation of a blow job on their own obviously. Your mouth is wet and warm, like a vagina or a lubed-up hand , but your lips and tongue are living, roving, irreplaceable works of art. But like with any sex act, enjoying the experience yourself which, if you're going to do it, you absolutely should typically comes from having some level of confidence in yourself—and that comes from knowing what you're doing.
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